How to write a love letter

Language was invented for one reason, boys - to woo women - and, in that endeavor, laziness will not do.

- Robin Williams - Dead Poets Society

Some people might tell you it’s easy to write a love letter if you’re in love. Don't listen to them, it can be daunting and it's a different experience for everyone. Just like doing anything out of your comfort zone, it likely won't be easy. 

Never fear, we have put together some tips on getting in the right frame of mind to write a love letter straight from the heart to the one you love.

1. Don't try and cram it in before it is ‘due’

Take the time to find inspiration in your day-to-day life. As you go about your day, write down thoughts about your significant other as they pop into your head.

Listen to love songs from all decades; I don’t know what was happening in the 50’s and 60’s but the likes of Sam Cooke and Aretha Franklin sure knew how to sing about love. Even google love letters for some inspiration or read some classic poetry. 

2. You can start chronologically

Calculate how many days it has been since you first met. Think about what you thought about them when you first met, then write about how your thoughts might have changed or evolved as your feelings turning into something more. 

Write about your first kiss and your first date. 

Don't forget to describe the moments in detail: Where were you? What music was playing? What was rushing through your mind? What did you do with your hands? Don't just say “we kissed, it was good”. Take the time to describe ín detail what you experienced and how it made you feel. 

Perhaps segway into when you realized this person was the only person you wanted to kiss. Write about your feelings changing, your thoughts changing, your perspective changing.

Now is a good time to describe the first person to say "I love you" and the story around that.  

3. Write about the cute things as well as the annoying things (we want some balance)

Now here is where you want to make them feel noticed. 

Write about the things no one else sees: their little mannerisms, the way they smile, what makes them smile, the way they can't cook rice, or how cute they are when they see a dog on sale (or something deeper than that, it's your love letter). Just make sure after this part they know you have seen their soul, and you didn't want to leave. 

Then you can write about how the other person makes you feel. Don't just say "you make me happy": Does this person make you feel like you are home? Does this person ignite you? Do they motivate you to be a better person? Does being close to this person make your heart skip when you see them? There are a lot of ways to describe your connection.

4. Segway into what you crave or desire about this person

Here is the really fun part where you can write about how you have grown and changed for the better.

You can write about what you love doing for them eg. cooking, writing, making playlists, planning holidays; I don't know what weird stuff you are into, but I'm sure your S.O loves it.

Then write about how they have changed, how they have grown. 

Write about overcoming adversity together, how the shit moments seem like nothing now. 

5. Seal it with a kiss

Now you can tell them you love them but write it in your special way. Some grand statement such as “I will give you the moon’' or “I am your lifetime guarantee” and that you can't wait to call them your husband/wife.

Finally, spray your perfume/cologne and sign your name. 

XOXO Boyfriend